Is it over? It's a question that women often ask themselves but are frightened to ask their partners lest it becomes a reality. Once a woman gets a whiff of trouble, that becomes the most dominant thought on her mind. Does he love me? Is he losing interest? Is there someone else? We have asked ourselves one of these questions at least once. And with live-in couples things can get more complicated.
People with a fairly traditional upbringing still look for legal security.
Probably that's the reason why married couples going through troubled times take solace in the fact that they have something probably more tangible in the form of legal and societal sanction for their relationship. Unmarried couples may keep a certain door open for things not working out. Or maybe they don't often come face-to-face with their true deep fears before marriage fearing a break-up.
In a live-in relationship, couples begin to share their lives, but if one falls out of love or wants out of a relationship, the other partner could suddenly find himself/herself in an emotional void that could lead to depression.
Relationship counsellor Rachna Singh talks about the 5 telltale of a relationship going downhill.
LACK OF INTEREST
Lack of physical or emotional contact are two signs that counsellors find most common in any relationship that's going south. Your partner's lack of interest in your life is the first indicator of things going the wrong way. It can be a social gathering with your common friends around or things that you generally did together like dining or watching a late night film. He'll resist accompanying you to any such events. Slowly, you will notice his lack of interest in your life. He'll stop asking you how you feel about things, what you did in office or how you spent your day.
NO SEXUAL URGE
One of the major factors that you could often miss in this busy life is when your partner avoids having sex with you. You may think he's tired or that his interest has probably fizzled out after a first few months or a year of your togetherness, but it often seems to be a guy's way of communicating with you that something at the core is not right. Men often say very little or nothing especially in long relationships for fear of hurting the woman or any violent or agitated reaction. They are not good at verbalising a break-up. Not having sex may be their way of telling you things aren't hunky-dory.
FRIENDS KNOW BEST
Family and friends are the first ones to notice something amiss.
Since you want to believe the best and deny any conflicting emotions, you aren't the right judge of where your relationship is heading. People who you're close to like your family or your close circle of friends will always tell you something's not like before.
Instead of denial, courage to see the truth or at least start accepting a larger picture would actually do the woman good.
SILENCE ISN'T GOLDEN
You may think it's workload, but if your guy has gone silent or less communicative over sometime, something is definitely amiss. You will suddenly realise you are the only one calling him when he's out either socialising or in office. He doesn't bother to call or let you know where he is or when he'll be home.
ROUTINE BICKERING
Things that were almost negligible in your life will suddenly become the source of arguments...like who was supposed to pay the bills, how much time one spends in the bathroom or who was supposed to run an errand.
Small things will blow out of proportion with both of you going into a foul mood. Even if he's the sweetest person on earth, when the guy wants out of a relationship, he'll never say sorry after an argument.
Sunday, September 12, 2010
Tuesday, April 13, 2010
Why People Fail to Plan a Business?
Why People Fail to Plan a Business this is surely due to lack of personality traits it requires to be a perfect businessman.
10 prominent Personality Problems given below which makes the venture unsuccessful
1. Not Mentally Strong: A certain attitude is required of successful entrepreneurs. Do you have what it takes to lead rather than to be lead?
2. Inability to Analyse: Successful entrepreneurs need an analytical spirit. Can you be analytical and even a little bit critical in order to guarantee business success?
3. Inability to Self Critique: As a business owner, you need to be willing to self critique. A business owner who is not critical of his or her self is an unsuccessful one.
4. Lack of Desire: You have to be passionate about your industry, niche or business in order to succeed. Do you lack desire for your business? Then you are destined to fail.
5. Low Motivation: Just like desire, motivation is critical for business success. If you are lacking motivation, perhaps you are in the wrong business. Get motivated or get another job.
6. Over Confidence in Expansion: While expanding may be a necessary part of business, if you become over confident in your ability to expand, your business will surely flop.
7. Making Rash Assumptions: If you walk into your business making assumptions, you will have trouble acting on real information.
8. Failing to Take Responsibility: When you are an entrepreneur, you have to accept responsibility for failures in your business; you cannot simply shirk them off onto someone else’s shoulders.
9. Procrastination: If you procrastinate, or are lazy, or otherwise simply cannot get things done, you are NOT suited for entrepreneurship.
10. Overzealousness: Your business will not go from 0 to 60 on day one. You need to be prepared for a slow battle, and shoot for “slow and steady” business growth.
10 prominent Personality Problems given below which makes the venture unsuccessful
1. Not Mentally Strong: A certain attitude is required of successful entrepreneurs. Do you have what it takes to lead rather than to be lead?
2. Inability to Analyse: Successful entrepreneurs need an analytical spirit. Can you be analytical and even a little bit critical in order to guarantee business success?
3. Inability to Self Critique: As a business owner, you need to be willing to self critique. A business owner who is not critical of his or her self is an unsuccessful one.
4. Lack of Desire: You have to be passionate about your industry, niche or business in order to succeed. Do you lack desire for your business? Then you are destined to fail.
5. Low Motivation: Just like desire, motivation is critical for business success. If you are lacking motivation, perhaps you are in the wrong business. Get motivated or get another job.
6. Over Confidence in Expansion: While expanding may be a necessary part of business, if you become over confident in your ability to expand, your business will surely flop.
7. Making Rash Assumptions: If you walk into your business making assumptions, you will have trouble acting on real information.
8. Failing to Take Responsibility: When you are an entrepreneur, you have to accept responsibility for failures in your business; you cannot simply shirk them off onto someone else’s shoulders.
9. Procrastination: If you procrastinate, or are lazy, or otherwise simply cannot get things done, you are NOT suited for entrepreneurship.
10. Overzealousness: Your business will not go from 0 to 60 on day one. You need to be prepared for a slow battle, and shoot for “slow and steady” business growth.
Wednesday, March 3, 2010
7-Habits to Become a Highly Effective Personality
7 habits for highly effective people
Leadership development inside a person is very important to be a highly effective one. It's a rip-off from a famous book about 7 habits, and numbered lists give form to ideas, making them more practicable. Create your own mental forms - there's a good habit to start. Then develop the following seven habits as well for Leadership development to be highly effective one
1. Take care of your body.
General health is conducive to mind power, of course, but you should also develop a few specific habits, like eating fish and other brain foods daily, or taking walks three times a week.
2. Take care of your brain.
A routine of weekly chess matches, regular reading, intelligent conversation, or crossword puzzles can exercise the brain and keep it strong. If you find music that help you think, get in the habit of using it.
3. Question everything.
Make it a habit to identify reporter biases every time you watch the news, or to challenge the assumptions hidden in every conversation.
4. Identify essentials of Leadership development to lead.
McDonalds doesn't make better burgers, so why are they successful. Start looking at every concept, thing and situation with the question in mind, "What is essential here?"
5. Be a problem-solver.
A fun and possibly productive habit, is to look at everything with the thought, "How can this be done better?" Practice a few specific problem-solving techniques until you find yourself using them "before you know it."
6. Be self-aware.
It's crucial to maximum mind power that you learn to see your own strengths and weaknesses. You also need to know what's going on in your head, just below consciousness. There will be more on this in the next lesson.
7. Use your total knowledge.
If you don't put your thoughts into action regularly, your brain may engage in fantasy more than productive thought. You're basically telling it that thinking isn't relevant to the real world. Play mental games for fun and training, but also be sure to apply the lessons learned to real problems.
You probably noticed that each of these 7 habits is really a collection or category of habits. Don't stress over how many you develop or how fast. The important thing is to just keep working on yourself.
Leadership development inside a person is very important to be a highly effective one. It's a rip-off from a famous book about 7 habits, and numbered lists give form to ideas, making them more practicable. Create your own mental forms - there's a good habit to start. Then develop the following seven habits as well for Leadership development to be highly effective one
1. Take care of your body.
General health is conducive to mind power, of course, but you should also develop a few specific habits, like eating fish and other brain foods daily, or taking walks three times a week.
2. Take care of your brain.
A routine of weekly chess matches, regular reading, intelligent conversation, or crossword puzzles can exercise the brain and keep it strong. If you find music that help you think, get in the habit of using it.
3. Question everything.
Make it a habit to identify reporter biases every time you watch the news, or to challenge the assumptions hidden in every conversation.
4. Identify essentials of Leadership development to lead.
McDonalds doesn't make better burgers, so why are they successful. Start looking at every concept, thing and situation with the question in mind, "What is essential here?"
5. Be a problem-solver.
A fun and possibly productive habit, is to look at everything with the thought, "How can this be done better?" Practice a few specific problem-solving techniques until you find yourself using them "before you know it."
6. Be self-aware.
It's crucial to maximum mind power that you learn to see your own strengths and weaknesses. You also need to know what's going on in your head, just below consciousness. There will be more on this in the next lesson.
7. Use your total knowledge.
If you don't put your thoughts into action regularly, your brain may engage in fantasy more than productive thought. You're basically telling it that thinking isn't relevant to the real world. Play mental games for fun and training, but also be sure to apply the lessons learned to real problems.
You probably noticed that each of these 7 habits is really a collection or category of habits. Don't stress over how many you develop or how fast. The important thing is to just keep working on yourself.
Tuesday, February 2, 2010
Girls Beat The Fat !!! Wear a Saree
Beat Shilpa and Aishwarya, now Ready to Wear a Saree. No need to Hide your midriff.
Unwanted fat is most visible in the midriff area so most women feel that mission fat-reduction begins with a thousand crunches. So, not true!
Mumbai-based fitness trainer Shahzad Daver reveals, "Working out will not affect the body parts where fat is stored, if you don't concentrate on lowering overall fat levels first. Begin by eating right which means lower the intake of starchy carbs like flour and sugar-based food, instead include whole-wheat food items, veggies and protein-rich food in your diet."
Fitness guru Leena Mogre recommends interval athletic work-out that is very effective in burning fat. "Jog for one minute and then sprint for two minutes. Continue this for atleast 15-20 minutes. This cardio work-out must be done early morning in the outdoors for best results."
Therefore, eliminate the fat first before putting together your exercise routine.
For fab abs!
The most exposed area in a sari is the midriff which, much to our misery, is also most vulnerable to fat and flab.
You will require a combination of crunches to tone-up this area.
Mumbai-based personal trainer Sushil Pawar suggests, "Stomach crunches and pulse crunches for upper abs and reverse leg raises for lower abs are the basic functional exercises to fight the flab in this area."
Arm candy
Once you have acquired envious arms, you'll never shy away from flaunting noodle-strapped or halter blouses.
Arm circles and tricep dips are some of the simplest exercises to get your arms in shape. Pawar suggests these steps:
1.
Stand or sit with your back straight and arms stretched out on either side. Lightly clench your fist and relax your elbows by bending them slightly.
2.
Hold this position and turn your fist up and move your arms in a pulsating upward movement. Continue this for 10 counts.
3.
Now turn your fist to face down and move your arms in a pulsating downward movement. Continue this for 10 counts.
4.
Next, turn your fist to the back and move your arms in a pulsating backward movement. Continue this for 10 counts.
5.
Finally, turn your fist to face forward and move your arms in a pulsating forward movement. Continue this for 10 counts.
6.
Work-out your triceps with tricep dips. Sit on the edge of a comfortable chair or bench with a firm seat. Hold the edge with your palms and move your buttocks forward until your whole body is supported by your palms. Now move up and down for 10 counts.
Bootylicious derriere
A delectable derriere adds to the sensuous six-yards. To not look flat-at-the-back, you need to work on your gluts.
Mogre recommends squats and lunges for a cute booty. "Do 15 squats on the spot and 25 walking lunges and finish it off with two whole Surya Namaskar."
Remember your knee should not extend beyond your toe-line while doing squats or lunges. It should be exactly perpendicular to your ankle joint otherwise you will cause injuries.
Finally, the décolletage
An itsy-bitsy bikini blouse needs a mighty firm bosom. Your breasts are made up of fatty tissue that are supported by muscles around the breast. So, technically, you can't work-out your breasts, you need to exercise the muscles supporting them to make them firm and supple.
Mogre says, "Push-ups are the best for your chest muscles. Not those lady-like push-ups but the military push-up is most effective." The good news is push-ups also tone your midriff. If a tiered-flabby back is bothering you, it's push-ups to your rescue!
Listen to the experts
* Leena Mogre: Always warm-up and cool down before and after exercising. Please get a fitness assessment done and consult a doctor if you suffer from any ailments. Beginners need to be monitored by a fitness expert.
* Shahzad Daver: If you are vegetarian, it is most likely that your protein intake is insufficient because a vegetarian diet does not include complete protein compounds. So, you need to take protein supplements if you want a fit and toned body.
* Sushil Pawar: Your body needs atleast 20 minutes of warm-up. Because only after this the process of burning fat begins. Always maintain a steady increase in pace or a consistent speed while cardio work-outs like running or walking otherwise it can harm your heart.
Unwanted fat is most visible in the midriff area so most women feel that mission fat-reduction begins with a thousand crunches. So, not true!
Mumbai-based fitness trainer Shahzad Daver reveals, "Working out will not affect the body parts where fat is stored, if you don't concentrate on lowering overall fat levels first. Begin by eating right which means lower the intake of starchy carbs like flour and sugar-based food, instead include whole-wheat food items, veggies and protein-rich food in your diet."
Fitness guru Leena Mogre recommends interval athletic work-out that is very effective in burning fat. "Jog for one minute and then sprint for two minutes. Continue this for atleast 15-20 minutes. This cardio work-out must be done early morning in the outdoors for best results."
Therefore, eliminate the fat first before putting together your exercise routine.
For fab abs!
The most exposed area in a sari is the midriff which, much to our misery, is also most vulnerable to fat and flab.
You will require a combination of crunches to tone-up this area.
Mumbai-based personal trainer Sushil Pawar suggests, "Stomach crunches and pulse crunches for upper abs and reverse leg raises for lower abs are the basic functional exercises to fight the flab in this area."
Arm candy
Once you have acquired envious arms, you'll never shy away from flaunting noodle-strapped or halter blouses.
Arm circles and tricep dips are some of the simplest exercises to get your arms in shape. Pawar suggests these steps:
1.
Stand or sit with your back straight and arms stretched out on either side. Lightly clench your fist and relax your elbows by bending them slightly.
2.
Hold this position and turn your fist up and move your arms in a pulsating upward movement. Continue this for 10 counts.
3.
Now turn your fist to face down and move your arms in a pulsating downward movement. Continue this for 10 counts.
4.
Next, turn your fist to the back and move your arms in a pulsating backward movement. Continue this for 10 counts.
5.
Finally, turn your fist to face forward and move your arms in a pulsating forward movement. Continue this for 10 counts.
6.
Work-out your triceps with tricep dips. Sit on the edge of a comfortable chair or bench with a firm seat. Hold the edge with your palms and move your buttocks forward until your whole body is supported by your palms. Now move up and down for 10 counts.
Bootylicious derriere
A delectable derriere adds to the sensuous six-yards. To not look flat-at-the-back, you need to work on your gluts.
Mogre recommends squats and lunges for a cute booty. "Do 15 squats on the spot and 25 walking lunges and finish it off with two whole Surya Namaskar."
Remember your knee should not extend beyond your toe-line while doing squats or lunges. It should be exactly perpendicular to your ankle joint otherwise you will cause injuries.
Finally, the décolletage
An itsy-bitsy bikini blouse needs a mighty firm bosom. Your breasts are made up of fatty tissue that are supported by muscles around the breast. So, technically, you can't work-out your breasts, you need to exercise the muscles supporting them to make them firm and supple.
Mogre says, "Push-ups are the best for your chest muscles. Not those lady-like push-ups but the military push-up is most effective." The good news is push-ups also tone your midriff. If a tiered-flabby back is bothering you, it's push-ups to your rescue!
Listen to the experts
* Leena Mogre: Always warm-up and cool down before and after exercising. Please get a fitness assessment done and consult a doctor if you suffer from any ailments. Beginners need to be monitored by a fitness expert.
* Shahzad Daver: If you are vegetarian, it is most likely that your protein intake is insufficient because a vegetarian diet does not include complete protein compounds. So, you need to take protein supplements if you want a fit and toned body.
* Sushil Pawar: Your body needs atleast 20 minutes of warm-up. Because only after this the process of burning fat begins. Always maintain a steady increase in pace or a consistent speed while cardio work-outs like running or walking otherwise it can harm your heart.
Saturday, January 30, 2010
BEST MANAGEMENT LESSONS (Behavioral too)
Lesson No.1
A crow was sitting on a tree, doing nothing all day.A small rabbit saw the crow, and asked him, "Can I also sit like you and do nothing all day long?"
The crow answered: " Sure, why not."
So, the rabbit sat on the ground below the crow, and rested. All of a sudden, a fox appeared, jumped on the rabbit and ate it.
Management Lesson: To be sitting and doing nothing, you must be sitting very, very high up.
Lesson No.2
A turkey was chatting with a bull. "I would love to be able to get to the top of that tree," sighed the turkey, "but I haven't got the energy." "Well, why don't you nibble on some of my droppings?" replied the bull. "They're packed with nutrients." The turkey pecked at a lump of dung and found that it actually gave him enough strength to reach the first branch of the tree.The next day, after eating some more dung, he reached the second branch. Finally after a fortnight, there he was proudly perched at the top of the tree.
Soon he was promptly spotted by a farmer, who shot the turkey out of the tree.
Management Lesson: Bullshit might get you to the top, but it won't keep you there.
Lesson No.3
When the body was first made, all the parts wanted to be Boss. The brain said, "I should be Boss because I control the whole body's responses and functions." The feet said, " We should be Boss as we carry the brain about and get him to where he wants to go." The hands said, "We should be the Boss because we do all the work and earn all the money." And so it went on and on with the heart, the lungs and the eyes until finally the asshole spoke up. All the parts laughed at the idea of the asshole being the Boss. So the asshole went on strike, blocked itself up and refused to work. Within a short time the eyes became crossed, the hands clenched, the feet twitched, the heart and lungs began to panic and the brain fevered.Eventually they all decided that the asshole should be the Boss.
Management Lesson: You don't need brains to be a Boss - any asshole will do.
Lesson No.4
A little bird was flying south for the winter. It was so cold, the bird froze and fell to the ground in a large field. While it was lying there, a cow came by and dropped some dung on it. As the frozen bird lay there in the pile of cow dung,it began to realize how warm it was. The dung was actually thawing him out! He lay there all warm and happy, and soon began to sing for joy. A passing cat heard the bird singing and came to investigate. Following the sound, the cat discovered the bird under the pile of cow dung, and promptly dug him out and ate him!
Management Lesson:
1) Not everyone who drops shit on you is your enemy.
2) Not everyone who gets you out of shit is your friend.
3) And when you're in deep shit, keep your mouth shut!
Intrinsic thoughts !!
A crow was sitting on a tree, doing nothing all day.A small rabbit saw the crow, and asked him, "Can I also sit like you and do nothing all day long?"
The crow answered: " Sure, why not."
So, the rabbit sat on the ground below the crow, and rested. All of a sudden, a fox appeared, jumped on the rabbit and ate it.
Management Lesson: To be sitting and doing nothing, you must be sitting very, very high up.
Lesson No.2
A turkey was chatting with a bull. "I would love to be able to get to the top of that tree," sighed the turkey, "but I haven't got the energy." "Well, why don't you nibble on some of my droppings?" replied the bull. "They're packed with nutrients." The turkey pecked at a lump of dung and found that it actually gave him enough strength to reach the first branch of the tree.The next day, after eating some more dung, he reached the second branch. Finally after a fortnight, there he was proudly perched at the top of the tree.
Soon he was promptly spotted by a farmer, who shot the turkey out of the tree.
Management Lesson: Bullshit might get you to the top, but it won't keep you there.
Lesson No.3
When the body was first made, all the parts wanted to be Boss. The brain said, "I should be Boss because I control the whole body's responses and functions." The feet said, " We should be Boss as we carry the brain about and get him to where he wants to go." The hands said, "We should be the Boss because we do all the work and earn all the money." And so it went on and on with the heart, the lungs and the eyes until finally the asshole spoke up. All the parts laughed at the idea of the asshole being the Boss. So the asshole went on strike, blocked itself up and refused to work. Within a short time the eyes became crossed, the hands clenched, the feet twitched, the heart and lungs began to panic and the brain fevered.Eventually they all decided that the asshole should be the Boss.
Management Lesson: You don't need brains to be a Boss - any asshole will do.
Lesson No.4
A little bird was flying south for the winter. It was so cold, the bird froze and fell to the ground in a large field. While it was lying there, a cow came by and dropped some dung on it. As the frozen bird lay there in the pile of cow dung,it began to realize how warm it was. The dung was actually thawing him out! He lay there all warm and happy, and soon began to sing for joy. A passing cat heard the bird singing and came to investigate. Following the sound, the cat discovered the bird under the pile of cow dung, and promptly dug him out and ate him!
Management Lesson:
1) Not everyone who drops shit on you is your enemy.
2) Not everyone who gets you out of shit is your friend.
3) And when you're in deep shit, keep your mouth shut!
Intrinsic thoughts !!
Wednesday, January 27, 2010
Lies about men, women usually percieve....
Do you know the 7 deadly lies that women are taught about men? Do you know that these beliefs cause more problems in relationships than most women realize. What are these lies?
Lie #1 Men are Insensitive to Women
Lie #2 Men are afraid of the Marriage Commitment
Lie #3 All Men Cheat on their Partner
Lie #4 Men only want Sex
Lie #5 Men only want younger Women
Lie #6 Men have to have complete control in a Relationship
Lie #7 Men aren't Romantic (The biggest Lie of All)
A Woman who believes these lies will react to men differently than those who know better. Let's take Lie #7 for example. If a woman really believes that men aren't romantic, then what often happens is that she will try and "help" her husband/boyfriend act romantically toward her. She may hint or even demand that he do such things as bring her flowers or spend more time with her.
Intrinsic thoughts
Lie #1 Men are Insensitive to Women
Lie #2 Men are afraid of the Marriage Commitment
Lie #3 All Men Cheat on their Partner
Lie #4 Men only want Sex
Lie #5 Men only want younger Women
Lie #6 Men have to have complete control in a Relationship
Lie #7 Men aren't Romantic (The biggest Lie of All)
A Woman who believes these lies will react to men differently than those who know better. Let's take Lie #7 for example. If a woman really believes that men aren't romantic, then what often happens is that she will try and "help" her husband/boyfriend act romantically toward her. She may hint or even demand that he do such things as bring her flowers or spend more time with her.
Intrinsic thoughts
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